I spend a lot of my working life in boardrooms. What I do for a living means I am often required to have tough conversations with senior people. Most of them are men. That has never bothered me, nor has it hindered my ability to be good at what I do. I’m judged for the quality of my thinking, and not my gender.
Which, is why I found myself prematurely walking out of a swanky dinner at Claridges this evening. Hosted by a global search firm, the event was meant to mark the launch of a network to attract female talent into the FTSE boardroom. I was invited. So far, so good. I was looking forward to hearing the keynote speakers and networking with interesting people over a glass of champagne. Even better.
Until, that is, one of the keynote speakers stood up and spent the first five minutes doing a Romney. You know, alienating 53% of the audience. Who were female. Who were meant to be the next generation of talent. Who – might I remind any head-hunters reading this blog – were potential candidates and/or clients. This man ran data centres. He explained we wouldn’t know what a data centre was – his tone implying that data centres were too technical for our pretty little heads. The fact that several accomplished MDs for UK tech firms were present seemed to have passed him by. Then he mentioned his ‘other half’. We were urged to feel gratified that this Neanderthal twit had introduced his ‘little woman’ (yes, those were the words he used to describe his spouse), because clearly women are not professionally complete unless they are also sleeping with the boss!
I am afraid to say that common sense overtook courtesy at this point. I voted with my feet before the main course was served. On the high-speed train home, I reflected on the experience. I have been to many dinners and networking events in the City, often very male dominated. I can honestly say I have never been offended by the discussion, no matter how robust or different from my own view of the world. Gender quite simply, wasn’t an issue. What set tonight’s event apart?
For me it had to be the old-style misogyny and out-moded thinking. This man was representing purveyors of talent, who claim to actively support diverse leadership teams. Really? As their spokesperson, I certainly wouldn’t want him representing me in the market. Instead of engaging with his audience, he simply confirmed a highly negative stereotype. His archaic leadership model has no currency in today’s workplace, nor is it borne out by the many women who sit on boards in the UK. This is currently 15% according to the latest report from Cranfield. Women also make up 49% of the workforce here in the UK, across both public and private sector firms. Approximately 21% of start-ups in the UK are female-owned or led.
Personally, I think it’s time for a new paradigm. Instead of lamenting the glass ceiling, it’s time we built a new house. Search firms, investors, networks and employers all have a role to play, as do the men and women who make up our workforce.
What do you think? Should gender matter? Comments on the blog, please.
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Well done on sticking to your guns. Equality is important but so is gender. Males and females bring different strengths to the workplace and both are required to create diversity, whether it is at boardroom level or below so both should be respected and welcomed. Thankfully the world has/is moving in this direction, there is no room for old-school ‘barefoot/pregnant/kitchen’ thinking!